Every January, millions of people promise themselves they’re finally going to change. This will be the year they stop procrastinating, stop overeating, stop going back to the wrong people, stop feeling so stuck. And by February, most of them feel ashamed. We’ve been taught that when we don’t follow through, it means we lack discipline or motivation. But in my work with trauma, attachment wounds, and emotionally sensitive nervous systems, I see something very different: Most p

When I sit with clients—whether couples or individuals—I often notice that their struggles share a common root: the longing to feel safe,...